Teach Your Children To.........Communicate
- Choose the right time to communicate when the other person is free to listen.
- You can share your thoughts, feelings, wants, hopes, dreams, facts, and information.
- Important things need to be shared with the right people . . . . people who are interested in and care about you.
- Before you communicate, think about what you're going to say.
- Say things as accurately and honestly as you can so . . . .
- People will understand what you say.
- People will answer you accurately and honestly.
Teach Your Children To . . . . . . . Make Decisions
- Determine what needs to be decided.
- Identify what the choices are.
- Think about the choices and consider the consequences of each.
- Choose the best alternative.
- Carry out what you've decided to do.
- Look back over the choice:
- What have you learned from making this choice?
- Would you make the same choice again?
Teach Your Children To . . . . . . . Make Friends
- Spend time with the other person.
- Notice what you like about the other person and tell him/her.
- Pay attention to his/her thoughts and feelings.
- Listen carefully to him/her.
- Be honest about how you think and feel.
- Talk to the other person about things that interest him/her.
- Try to solve your problems without nagging and arguing.
- Apologize when you've made a mistake.
- Forgive the other person when he/she is sorry.
- Be helpful to the other person.
Teach Your Children To . . . . . . . Solve Problems
- Identify the problem.
- Determine the possible solutions.
- Think about the solutions.
- What are the good and bad points of each?
- What would happen if each solution were chosen?
- Choose the best solution.
- Carry out the solution.
- Look back over the solution
- Would you choose the same solution again?
Teach Your Children To . . . . . . . Disagree
- Decide exactly what you disagree upon.
- Find out what the other person thinks.
- Find out what you think.
- Listen . . . . find out why the other person thinks the way they do.
- Face the other person
- Look into their eyes.
- Concentrate on what they are saying.
- Don't make judgment before they are finished.
- Honestly and kindly tell the other person why you think the way you do.
- Explore both opinions and gather information.
- Decide together how you will settle the disagreement.
- One or both of you may change your mind.
- You may agree to disagree.
- You may both give a little.
- You may find a completely different solution.
Teach Your Children To . . . . . . . Handle Crises
- Recognize and admit what is happening.
- Try to express your own true feelings.
- Include your children in what is happening and in the feelings about it.
- Understand that time will help everyone become familiar with new situations and new roles.
- Accept the help offered by others.
- Be flexible about demands on yourself and your children.
- Tackle the problem one step at a time.
- Seek professional help if needed.
In The Words of a Child
Don't be afraid to be firm with me. I prefer it. It makes me feel more secure.
Don't correct me in front of people if You can help it. I'll take much more notice if You talk to me quietly in private.
Don't protect me from consequences of my actions. I need to learn the painful way sometimes.
Don't nag. If You do, I shall have to protect myself by ignoring You.
Don't be inconsistent. That completely confuses me and makes me lose faith in You.
Don't put me off when I ask questions. If You do, You will find that I stop asking and will have to seek information elsewhere.
Don't ever suggest that You are perfect or infallible. It gives me too great a shock when I discover that You are neither.
Don't be afraid to admit that You made a mistake; it helps me to respect You more when I see your honesty.
Please don't be afraid to say you're sorry if you've done something wrong. I will only love and respect You all the more.